Tuesday, April 8, 2008

Sex Scenes - Fantasy or Real Life

Hey all,

It's been a while since I blogged here, but I wanted to have a place where I could chat to my readers. My FREE READ is taking up my Live Journal Blog Spot, so here we are.

So, what's the first topic I plan to speak of? Since I am a romance writer who pens sexy,
emotional reads, I thought I'd start with a fun topic.

Sex Scenes... Are they real or fantasy?

My bet is the answer lies somewhere in between.

Now one of the reasons people like my work is that the sex scenes between the hero and heroine
are both believable and emotionally fulfilling. This is very important to me because I've read books that had one or the other and because of it, I, as a reader was left with a bad taste in my mouth. As if something was missing and I couldn't quite enjoy what I just read.

Now, a lot of people will say that what is written in most romance books isn't real life. They can get cranky that the heroine always has an orgasm, or the h
ero always wants her more than he can breathe. They complain that sex in the morning isn't realistic because in real life there is bad breath, sleepiness or a full bladder.

They might be right.
But that, IMHO, is why romance books work. In a book you can do away with all those pesky details or cover them up in a way that is satisfying to the reader. Do sex partners pee in real life. Of course. Do they pee in my stories. Yes. But do my readers really care about that? Probably not.

So let's talk about the sex itself. In all honesty, I write what I want to read. I want to read about a man who so wants his woman he can hardly control himself. I want to be immersed in a scene that is so hot, I have to fan myself while I read. Is it always that way in real life? Again, probably not, but I'm not writing about every time. I'm writing about THIS time.

And because I'm doing that, I can make the scene as sexy, as emotional and satisfying as I want. As I think my readers wish to read. It's a dream...a fantasy to delve into and enjoy. Sex, whether it is between two people who have discovered they love each other, or it's at the beginning of the story as a one night stand...CAN be believable. It's just a matter of putting yourself in the character's place and then doing one simple thing.

Let yourself go and dream!

Thanks for stopping by everyone! See you on Saturday!



Desirée Lee said...

To me reading and writing erotic romance is an escape. I can live vicariously through the characters. Do I envy the characters for having a happy, healthy, exuberant sex life? Sure! When I read, I can slip in to the mindset of the characters and share in their ecstasy, even if only for a short while.

Carpe Noctem,

CJ England said...

Exactly, Des. That's it in a nutshell!

Unknown said...

I love your love scenes and I think it can be what ever we make of it.Now I don't really care for sex scenes wothout love but I am a little old fashioned LOL

CJ England said...

Me either Melanie. I mean I'll read them if they fit the story, but there is a part of me that is always hoping for that perfect connection of falling in love.